Having issues with baptism?

I would just go along with the baptism in the same way you went along with the wedding. I presume since the wedding you have not started going to church so it needn't be any different after the baptism. Like the wedding, the baptism is just one day and noone can tell you how to raise your child afterwards. In fact, you may actually end up really enjoying the occasion ...you must have enjoyed your second wedding day even if just a little!